I am a huge Brene Brown fan. I have been devouring everything she has written, googling memes, following her blog. I am obsessed! I had previously read Daring Greatly in the 2017 Trail Blazers Book Club. This time The Book Club is reading Rising Strong. I started off reading the e-version of the book and then as I was planning a long drive for work, I downloaded the audio book. Changed my life! I love the written words that Brene Brown writes, but hearing her narrate her book, hearing her personality bring her words to life brought me such joy.
The entire book is a journey into self-reflection, but chapter 6 was one of my favorite and connected with me and who I am. Chapter 6: SEWER RATS AND SCOFFLAWS
There were so many nuggets in there. For the next several days I kept repeating to myself “they are doing the best they can”; whether I truly believed it or not. What this did was every time the person kicked the panel connected to the table we were sharing and shook the entire room, I said to myself “he is doing the best he can”. When the person cut me off in traffic, “she is doing the best she can”. This allowed some grace to show up and helped prevent aggravation and frustration that would live in me.
“This rumble taught me why self-righteousness is dangerous. Most of us buy into the myth that it’s a long fall from “I’m better than you” to “I’m not good enough”—but the truth is that these are two sides of the same coin. Both are attacks on our worthiness. We don’t compare when we’re feeling good about ourselves; we look for what’s good in others. When we practice self-compassion, we are compassionate toward others. Self-righteousness is just the armor of self-loathing.”
This chapter also hit on some business challenges I am currently facing as I re-brand and create new ventures. She writes “how can we expect people to put value on our work when we don’t value ourselves enough to set and hold uncomfortable boundaries?”. Setting boundaries, respecting ourselves making it easier to respect others, and deciding what is ok and what is not is what this chapter focuses on; Living BIG
She talks about Living Big: Boundaries, Integrity, and Generosity. “Living Big is saying: “Yes, I’m going to be generous in my assumptions and intentions while standing solidly in my integrity and being very clear about what’s acceptable and what’s not acceptable”.”
Brown realized that the people who were willing to extend grace to others–and to themselves–seemed happier, better adjusted and wholehearted. It almost didn’t matter whether people really were doing their best–treating them as if they were, deciding to view life that way, led to better outcomes.
Which chapter did you like best?